Unexamined Lives

The story of the 20th century as lived by residents in the Derbyshire village of Borrowash

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A Green Thought – Brian Day

Brian Day from Menheniot in Cornwall would agree with 17th century poet, Andrew Marvell, that there is little to beat a green thought in a green shade’.

 How well the skilful gardener drew

 Of Flowers and herbs this dial new,

 Where from above the milder sun

 Does through a fragrant zodiac run;

 And as it works, the industrious bee

 Computes its time as well as we.

 How could such sweet and wholesome hours

 Be reckoned but with herbs and flowers!

 From ‘The Garden’ by Andrew Marvell: 1621-1678

His natural affinity with the land stems from childhood visits to his grandparents’ home at Common Farm in the Derbyshire village of Muggington, but after a diagnosis of bowel cancer in 2004, gardening would become a key component in his recovery.

According to his wife, Maureen:

‘Gardening gave him something to focus on. You can be yourself in a garden.’

Brian’s garden in Cornwall, lauded by the County Organiser of the National Gardens Scheme as:

‘One of the best gardens I’ve seen,’

with its Japanese area and a wealth of plants and flowers, is the creation of a man known by his wife to be ‘very determined; doesn’t like to be beaten at anything.’

It might also be exactly what is to be expected of the great grandson of Thomas Day, from Carr Hill Farm in Ockbrook.

For Brian Day, his great uncle Walter, son of Thomas and long deceased, was merely a name from the past:

‘I don’t remember my grandfather talking about Walter, although I did become aware that a family member had lost his life in World War One’

He was therefore extremely surprised and intrigued  to be informed that this anonymous relative, along with other members of his immediate  family, had featured in an article called ‘The Borrowash Boys’ in The Derby Telegraph’s   commemorative supplement to mark the centenary of the outbreak of the First World War.

He immediately made contact with Helen Clark from ‘Unexamined Lives’, keen to provide some update to the story:

‘Walter Day was my grandfather’s brother, Thomas and Lizzie were my great grandparents, Thomas Francis Day and Maggie were my grandparents.’

Walter Day, whose name is engraved upon the Ockbrook and Borrowash  War Memorial died of wounds  on 11th October, 1917; a casualty of the infamous Third Battle of Ypres, better  known as Passchendale.

He is buried in Lijssenthock Military Cemetery near Ypres, having served at the front for less than sixth months and  leaving a wife, Frances Emily, and baby son Raymond, to continue life without him in Borrowash  at  their home in  the Noah’s Ark  pub.

Raymond was born on 24th March 1917 and was just a week old when his father arrived in France to begin his war service.

Apart from The British War Medal, The Victory Medal, and personal effects including miniature toy cannon, Walter’s son will have had few mementoes to keep of his father and no immediate memories.  Brian knows little about what happened to his great uncle’s family including Walter’s grandchildren Paul and Zena and great grandchildren Martin and Hayley.

It is impossible to predict with any degree of certainty what Walter Day might have made of his life; he belongs to a lost and long-forgotten generation; recalled from the mists of history because of the centenary of the most extensive carnage that the world has ever seen.

Yet the path taken by his immediate relatives provides a clue, for like them, (and his great nephew Brian), Walter was drawn to the land. By the time he enlisted, and after a first job as a butcher’s errand boy, he was working alongside his father and elder brother at Carr Hill Farm in Ockbrook.

Walter’s father, Thomas was a farm labourer and waggoner from Gloucester who married Lizzie from Derby in 1884 and worked as a railway stableman before moving to Carr Hill Farm.

Brian describes his great grandfather as ‘a mystery’ and he seems to have combined practicality with a nose for business:

‘I was always told he was quite wealthy (and at one stage he had three farms) and that he used to import horses from abroad for the railway. He was also a carriage maker.’

Thomas and Lizzie Day are buried in Breaston cemetery. Their eldest son, Walter’s brother and Brian’s grandfather, Thomas Francis, would carry on the family farming tradition.

Born in 1885, Thomas Francis was two years older than Walter and by 1911 was married to Maggie and working at Carr Hill Farm.

Like his younger brother, he had enlisted as a soldier, but unlike Walter, joined the South Staffs regiment and survived his wartime ordeal.

Yet it was a near miss.

Thomas Francis did not emerge unscathed, and will have counted himself lucky to evade Walter’s fate. Brian’s grandfather was wounded in action and spent some time recuperating at the VAD hospital in the Ockbrook Moravian Settlement. He became a Prisoner of War and at the end of hostilities was hospitalised in Glen Parva, suffering from typhoid.

After the war had ended, there was finally an opportunity to pick up the threads of ordinary life and Thomas Francis and Lizzie became parents to nine children; Thomas, Leslie, Frank, Reg, Ron, Tony, Marjorie, Dorothy and Nellie.

Brian’s childhood visits to his grandparents were set against the backdrop of another war:

‘During my visits to the farm, only the two youngest sons, Ron and Tony were there, working for their father; the other four were serving overseas in the Forces as the Second World War was in progress and the daughters were all married.’

Thomas Francis, who had lost his younger brother in World War One and narrowly escaped the same fate himself, must have been tremendously worried about the safety of his four elder sons but there was nothing he could do about it.

He, Lizzie and the ‘babies’ of their family,  Ron and Tony, remained waiting for news in Derbyshire, working on the family farm and spending time with little Brian and  giving him

‘My best childhood memories, on the farm, in Muggington.’

Muggington is roughly seven miles from Derby and its name, derived from Old English, and meaning that the farm belonged to Mugga or Mogga, is the key to its character.

The original Mugga was an unknown Saxon who farmed in the area before the arrival of the Normans. Farming is still predominant in Muggington and parts of All Saints church date back to Saxon times.

For Brian, time spent with his grandfather at Common Farm was special and may have stirred an inherited love of the outdoor life:

‘My mother used to put me on the bus at Derby bus station and my grandmother used to meet me at the bus where it stopped right outside the farm.

At an early age, I was taught how to milk cows by hand and also plough behind a horse which was so well-trained, all I did was hold the plough.

 I also remember collecting free range eggs from the orchard and all sorts of fruit  –  and another farm memory was riding on the horse with Tony to the Blacksmith at Turnditch for the horse to be re-shod and it took most of the day!’

When Thomas Francis decided to retire, leaving his farm and moving with Lizzie to a cottage outside Newark, Brian did not want to lose touch with his grandparents. It took some effort because ‘cars were not the norm by then and most families did not have access to telephones,’ but luckily, for a resourceful boy, there was an accessible alternative to walking:

‘One day, aged about 14, I rode to see him on my bike and it was a long ride there and back in a day! I used to stay with them during the holidays and remember using an ex RAF rubber dinghy to paddle down the river.’

A warm relationship with his grandparents must have gone some way to compensate for the privations of a wartime childhood when food was scarce and his absentee father was far from home, serving his country.

Brian Day was born on March 1st 1938, the eldest child of Edna and Leslie and brother to younger siblings Margaret and Ronald.

The family home was number 4, Field Lane in Alvaston and Brian’s earliest memory is of his first day as a five-year old at Wyndham Street Infant School.

He might have been expected to recall feelings of homesickness, a sense of bewilderment at a strange environment; even excitement or uncertainty about new routines – but for the small child in 1943, the first stirrings of memory are primitive:

‘I remember joining a long queue in the corridor where the children from the front of the queue were returning, clutching a small bag of sweets. I was worried that by the time I got to the front, there would not be any left.

Yes I did get my sweets, a rare treat as they were rationed due to the war. I wonder why that is my only memory of Wyndham Street School.’

He answers his own question in the next sentence:

‘They were hard times. My father was abroad serving in the army and food was scarce, although my mother was a good cook and seemed to make a meal out of whatever she could find.’

For a child with an empty stomach, an unexpected bonus of sweets sparked the most basic instinct of all – the need to survive.

Fortunately, Brian’s father, Leslie, was amongst World War Two survivors and had been invalided out of the Army due to injuries sustained in Belgium during the course of action.

Yet it took a while for the homeland to resume the paths of peace, and features of the war years lingered on. Hitler was dead but some of his troops remained; incarcerated in Prisoner of War camps throughout the country – including in Alvaston’s Boulton Lane.

Brian’s grandfather, Thomas Francis had known what it was like to be a Prisoner of War in a foreign country; it had happened to him in World War One.

He may also have felt some sympathy for the German soldiers of his own era, caught up, like British troops at the front – in a struggle not of their making.

Had he been amongst the German and English soldiers exchanging cigarettes at a Christmas cease – fire over thirty years ago?

Could a father’s memory, passed down to his son, have influenced the magnanimity of   Leslie Day when he contemplated the presence of a prison camp near to the family home in Field Lane and the plight of its inmates?

By 1947, the national mood had mellowed, as Brian recalls:

‘I think around 1947, you could invite two German POWs to Xmas dinner.

My father thought it was now time to ‘move on’ and we had two prisoners round to have dinner with us, although we didn’t have much, due to rationing.

I’m sure anyway that it was better than the food in the camp! They were so grateful and the elder one, Alfred, was in tears.’

Brian was nine years old at the time. He visited the nearby camp on several occasions and the generosity  of his parents  to a couple of ‘enemy aliens’ at Christmas, forged bonds of human kindness  that have survived the passage of time and the triumphs and tragedies of life.

‘I was given lovely wooden toys the prisoners had made and my father was given several paintings the prisoners had painted.’

The ties were strengthened after the camps were no more:

‘After they returned to Germany, we kept in touch and Walter, the younger one, returned in 1950 to stay with us for a short time. My father and his friends gave him several things that he could not get in Berlin.’

Walter Day was lost to those he loved because he died in the First World War. Now, as if by fate, World War Two had given his nephew Leslie and great nephew, Brian, a lifelong friend – in the person of a German soldier – called Walter!

As Brian says:

‘What a coincidence – two Walters!’

Whether fate, chance or something more spiritual was at work, ‘German Walter’ filled a gap at the heart of an English family:

‘My father and Walter became firm friends and corresponded frequently. Unfortunately, Alfred died a few years after his return to Germany.’

The depth of the relationship became apparent when Brian’s father Leslie died suddenly in 1961, leaving the family ‘devastated’.

Walter stepped in to help:

‘Walter immediately sent some money to my mum to help her and when she died in 1975, I carried on communicating with Walter, who by this time was at the height of his career and very busy.’

When Brian retired from work, he decided to visit his father’s friend and do it in style!

As a fourteen year – old boy, he had thought nothing of bicycling from Derby to Newark to visit his beloved grandparents. Now, aged 60, he was about to attempt a rather more audacious journey:

‘My cousin Barry and I decided to go by motorcycle to Berlin to meet Walter and his wife, Anita – so two guys in their 60s rode from Derby to Dover , then took a ferry to Calais, across France, Belgium and Holland and to Walter’s house in Berlin.’

In an austere post-war period, Leslie and Edna Day had broken bread with two German Prisoners of War at Christmas.

Now, one of those prisoners had made good and was determined to repay the kindness:

‘Walter and Anita picked us up from our hotel every morning and showed us everything Berlin had to offer and we dine in all the top restaurants. He wouldn’t let us pay for anything – we protested and he said ‘It’s my time now to repay a debt to your lovely father….’

Walter is now 88 and I am 76 (but still ride a motorbike!). Walter and I are still in contact and I tell him, he’s got more hair than me!’

What had been taken from the Days in the First World War had, in its own strange way, been returned to them by the unforeseen events of World War Two.

As a child who grew up in post-war Britain, Brian does not reminisce about his schooldays with enthusiasm.  They were certainly not the happiest days of his life and as a consequence, are largely erased from memory. His anxiety about potentially missing out on the sweet distribution at his first school was followed by an unpleasant experience at Elvaston Junior School where methods of discipline were rough and ready:

‘On my first day at assembly, the Headmaster, a Mr Peach slapped me across the face for talking, which I was not! He should have gone to Spec savers!

He got the wrong child or something and I have never forgotten!’

The years have not dimmed his feelings of resentment, but school number three, Shelton Lock Secondary Modern, fares better in retrospect.

Brian admits that he enjoyed ‘playing football and cricket at every opportunity’ but plenty of sport did not act as an inducement to continue his studies.

He left as soon as the law permitted and at the age of 15, started his first job at a textile manufacturing firm.

‘Samuel Davies’, in Derby’s Canal Street did not fulfil his ambitions. In fact, Brian does not describe his duties there at all, except to say that the hours were long (‘8am until 6pm’)

and there were added disadvantages:

‘ When I got home I then had to catch a bus at the top of Field Lane to Castle Donnington , and ride my Dad’s bike back home from the Trent Bus Garage where he was working as a driver.’

He was soon job-hunting again in earnest, with the armed forces as first choice for a young man who liked outdoor activities.

Unfortunately, Brian’s plans were thwarted by his own enthusiasms:

‘I tried to join the Navy but damaged my knee playing football. I had to have it operated on before they would accept me and after the operation, I had to have physio at Etwall Hospital.’

This was a set-back – with a silver lining for a football fan:

‘My physiotherapist turned out to be the late Bertie Mee who went on to manage Arsenal! He was Manager when they went on to win the League and FA cup double in 1971. He was a lovely guy!’

When he joined the Navy, Brian continued playing football, and signed up for the training squadron team. He retains a lingering affection for Arsenal (no doubt in tribute to Bertie Mee), but then and now:

‘Derby County are my team.’

Brian was accepted into the Navy at the age of 16 and when he was finally on his way, the prospect seemed daunting:

‘I remember the lonely train journey to Portsmouth and thinking ‘What have I done?’

Once there, it was a different matter, because was soon swept up in training prior to joining ‘a Destroyer; HMS Chieftain doing Seaman Duties and acting as Twin Bofor Gun Aimer.’

If Brian had yearned for a quiet life, he was in the wrong job, but there was no time to watch the clock.

As a child, he had visited a Prisoner of War camp in Boulton Lane.

Now, the young Seaman found himself involved in another post-war mission of reconciliation:

‘One special trip was to Leningrad on an exchange goodwill visit.

We were the first British servicemen to visit since the ending of World War Two and we were made very welcome.’

Next, he was part of a nine month deployment in the Mediterranean, troubleshooting on the shores of Cyprus and combating the threat from EOKA, a Greek Cypriot nationalist paramilitary organisation, hell-bent on ending British rule and fighting for self-determination and union with Greece.

Every second seemed to be packed with drama – but it was all to be short-lived.

Whilst at base in Malta, Brian was laid low with stomach pains; admitted to Bhigi hospital and subsequently diagnosed with a stomach ulcer that did not respond to treatment.

He was flown home to the Naval Hospital in Chatham and then discharged from duties.

At the tender age of 20, Brian Day was back in Derby where he had started – and once more, without a job.

Unsurprisingly ‘there was not much work for a Seaman in Derby’ and Brian had no career game-plan. He took a job as a porter at Easterns’ Furniture Store at the Spot in town and there was no guarantee that he would like the work.

Fortunately, he had stumbled upon a career:

‘I eventually progressed to the sales staff and found I was quite good at selling.’

There was a fly in the ointment:

‘Only drawback – I had to work every Saturday and couldn’t watch my beloved Derby County.’

Brian’s footballing days, both as an active fan and an amateur player were over – but there was an alternative:

‘I had taken up motorcycle trials riding which I could do on Sundays, my only day off work.’

He had now found a professional niche and a sport he could enjoy, but Brian’s family was plunged into turmoil with the sudden death of Leslie.

He had no history of illness and the manner of his death was shocking:

‘H was only 47! He was driving a coach for a Borrowash company when he was taken ill and passed away.’

To be widowed without warning at such a young age was a blow from which Edna Day never recovered. The family rallied round and German Walter helped out with money but her health was wrecked and she suffered a stroke a couple of years later.

Tragedy struck again when Brian’s sister Margaret died suddenly shortly afterwards and by then, the prospect of recovery for Edna was beyond the bounds of probability.

According to Brian:

‘My mother found it very hard to cope. My brother or I called in to see her every day and when I moved to Cornwall in 1971, my mother came to stay whenever she could. However, she was taken ill again and we decided to bring her to Cornwall to live with us, but it never took place.

She had a heart attack and passed away.

Edna Day was 59.

Her youngest child, Ron was later to follow the family pattern of dying early (at 64), but Brian was luckier.

Shortly after his father’s death, the furniture shop, Easterns’ was taken over by Cantors’ and Brian was transferred to another outlet in Ilkeston.

It was a good move:

‘I eventually became Manager! I was very happy in Ilkeston and whilst working there, I got married to my lovely wife, Maureen.’

The couple had met in 1963, married in 1966 and Brian’s career continued its upward trajectory. The managerial post in Ilkeston was followed by another, at a bigger store in Burton on Trent, and then came the telephone call that was to change his life:

‘I received a phone call from Head Office, asking me if I would go to Plymouth to manage the Plymouth store. This was on a Friday and they wanted an answer on Saturday morning and I had to be in Plymouth on Monday morning to take over the shop!’

It was a shotgun decision but Brian and Maureen did not hesitate because ‘the package on offer was just too good to turn down.’

He packed, left and hunted around in Plymouth for temporary accommodation.

‘After living in a hotel for six months, Maureen joined me in our new house in Cornwall.’

They were home to stay:

‘I remained in the Plymouth store until my retirement and still live in the same village, although in a different property.’

Menheniot village in Cornwall has little in common with  Alvaston’s Field Lane or anywhere comparable in Ilkeston and Burton on Trent.

The main difference is that it is quieter, the pace of life is leisurely and Brian and Maureen enjoyed participating in their local community until Brian’s diagnosis of bowel cancer and a long period of hospital treatment.

In recovery, his instinctive love of the natural world came to the fore and tending a garden was the best antidote to hospital wards.

In 2007, he entered it for the Menheniot ‘Best Garden’ competition and was happy to agree ‘when the organiser asked if I would mind if someone could film the garden.’

It was an exciting prospect, although the garden was not at its best in winter and when ‘a lady came round with a huge camera, had a chat and filmed’, he showed her some photographs of everything in full bloom and his visitor appeared to be impressed.

Brian and Maureen were looking forward to some photographs and maybe a small feature about their garden in the local newspaper; something to show to friends and family – and had no idea that the mystery photographer was on a scouting mission from BBC2!

She said ‘I’ve visited lots of gardens today and I think yours is the one we will feature on ‘Open Gardens’. I really had no idea!’

‘Open Gardens’ was a Twofour production for BBC2, featuring the National Garden Scheme.

The Scheme was launched in 1927 with the aim of opening private gardens to the general public to raise money for charity. In its first year, 609 private gardens opened their gates to the public and £8,191 was raised for charity. By 2013, over 3,700 gardens were declared ‘open’ and over £40 million has been raised during the course of 87 years. The Scheme  is now highly structured with a team of ‘County Organisers’ on hand to inspect potential entrants to ‘The Yellow Book’ – a visitor guide to the gardens judged to be  of sufficient quality and interest to attract the public.

‘Yellow Book’ gardens open once or twice a year and admission fees and other monies raised are administered via The National Gardens Scheme Charitable Trust.

The Prince of Wales is the current patron and cancer charities features prominently amongst the beneficiaries.

The thought of helping to raise money for organisations such as Macmillan Cancer Support gave Brian added incentive.

When he received a telephone call ‘saying they would like to start filming in February with Carol Klein and film about four hours a month until June’, he had no hesitation and prepared for action.

Appearing in any ‘reality TV’ programme – especially one involving a competition might be stressful for most people, but for Brian it was a health cure.

The fact that he was a cancer patient in recovery ‘gave the producer a story line’, but Brian blossoms; tending every inch of the land with a meticulous attention to detail, surmounting crises like an empty garden bed and a dead patch of hedge, weeding and planting with presenter Carol Klein, or pottering purposefully while the viewers feel the heat, as Prokofiev’s ‘Dance of the Knights’, the theme tune of ‘The Apprentice’ pounds away in the background.

The visit of the County Organiser is a thing of dread and as Glynn marches around the garden with an inexorable tread, smiling and frowning in equal measure, the viewer is skilfully kept on tenterhooks about the outcome.

However, Brian sails through the ordeal with flying colours and the programme ends as he hosts the official opening, the proud recipient of comments from his visitors:

The bouquets were fulsome, but Brian is just grateful for the experience of working with Carol (‘an absolute joy) , the fact that he will be able to send the DVD of ‘Open Gardens’ to German Walter and best of all , that he has raised money for some of his favourite cancer charities.

His own experience of serious illness seems finally irrelevant and working in his garden has taken my mind off the problem.’

In 2014, Brian Day, retired salesman and resident of Cornwall, is separated by generations from his Derbyshire forbears; yet surely a garden in Menheniot is linked to the farms in Ockbrook and Muggington by the inherited instinct of the man who tends it and makes things grow.

Thomas, Thomas Francis, and Walter were men of the land; their way of life circumscribed by the cyclical rhythm of the seasons.

In 2014, the anniversary of the outbreak of World War One served to reacquaint Brian with the name of a great uncle he had never met.

Just as German Walter came, inadvertently, to fill a gap in the Day family belonging to his long-dead English namesake, it is perhaps fitting to remember that life itself follows a seasonal pattern.

Just as Walter Day was ‘untimely ripped’ by World War One from his natural way of life, supporting his family by cultivating the land; cultivating a garden a century hence has restored his great nephew Brian to health.

In the words of Menheniot village Group Leader, Valerie Sturdy:

‘A few months in the garden has made all the difference.’

Or as Andrew Marvell would have it:

‘How could such sweet and wholesome hours

Be reckoned but with herbs and flowers!’

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

      

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